Family talks

Papi Bear and I talked about the other night and tried to see the issue from both sides. He started off by saying he absolutely did not mean to imply that he doesn’t believe our son has PDD or autism. He said he accepts the diagnosis and is not in denial. His intention was to say that he feels using earphones would push his therapy back and/or keep him from advancing towards different coping mechanisms because, in general, he does not have sensory problems when it comes to noise.

I explained my side of the issue. First, our son is two years old. While we are starting interventions early, the fact remains that…. he’s two years old. He doesn’t understand things on the scale of an adult. While we hear a loud mix of background noise, he may be focusing in on individual conversations and it’s overwhelming – especially at an age where he’s just starting to grasp language himself. I tried to explain the concept of an autism meltdown to him and how removing him to walk around the buffet area is not curing it – it’s just improving the situation for five minutes and then throwing him right back into the torture afterwards.

We came to a truce at the end. He understands where I’m coming from. I understand where he’s coming from. He said he’s okay with it in extreme situations such as what went down at Tusker House, but not when he’s just a little cranky, such as when we go to IHOP or Denny’s. I’m fine with that. When we have a normal family dinner out, he usually can walk him around the restaurant, come back, and Little Bear will eat his food with no problem.

Today’s new achievements:

Little Bear was extra cranky when he woke up. I think he’s going through a growth spurt because he slept like crap last night and he usually sleeps like a rock. He also got up earlier than usual. So instead of doing our normal language work in the morning, we went to the park to work on our climbing, as per PT’s orders. There was a little girl there who looked like she wanted to play with Little Bear, but he just ran right by her. He smiled at her a few times, but in general, he didn’t care. This is one of his strongest┬ásymptoms. We’re hoping this will improve once he starts at his new school on Monday.

He started to sit down around 10AM because the sun was getting stronger and he was hot. We went to the science museum to visit the otters – his best friends in the world. They were busy fighting and only occasionally came out near the glass. However, every time they did, he went CRAZY! Laughing, smiling, jumping, running alongside them at the window. He adores those otters. He did a lot of pointing at the museum – mostly towards where the otters are.

He took his nap afterwards and woke up in a pretty good mood. He saw I was working and immediately closed by computer, telling me, “Ah dah,” which means, “All done.” He started playing with his stringing beads and he started counting, “nuno… doh…. tre…. cato!” (uno, dos, tres, cuatro). He picked up one of them and said, “circulo.” He’s said circle and circulo before, but he followed it up by saying, “yellow.” And it was, indeed, yellow. Grandma said he said green today, too.

Later in the day, I got a call from Papi Bear. I put him on speaker. He picked up the phone off the table and, for the first time, held it to his ear and started saying, “owa? owa? alo? alo?” Even after Papi Bear hung up, he still picked up my phone every time he saw it and said his form of hola and hello into it. I was THRILLED by this development!

Also, we finally have his ABA therapy planned. He starts on September 28th.

Great things are happening for Little Bear!

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Progress

We’ve had quite a busy week with Little bear. Both Papi bear and I have been working as hard as we can to get him on track developmentally. We read, we play pretend, we roughhouse with both our boys – whatever it takes to get Little bear engaged.

And it’s working! It’s working incredibly well.

This week he started saying a bunch of new words regularly: No, papi, “Gracias, Little Bear (except his real name),” uva, meow, the letters i, t, d, and z(eta). He’s using old words like bubble and ball more often. He repeats new words more often, even if he hasn’t incorporated them into his vocabulary yet. We see him on the cusp of learning and we’re thrilled by it.

He’s also growing socially. He’s starting to seek approval every once in a while. Not consistently yet, but sometimes when he’s watching TV, he’ll look up to see if you’re watching, too. He especially does this when it’s something he’s really enjoying. He’s done it a few times when playing with puzzles as well. He’s searching for approval and for us, that’s huge.

He’s starting to fight with his brother. Previously he just cried when Big bear bothered him. Now he defends himself by pinching, biting, or pushing back. He’s not doing it unprovoked – he’s learned that his brother feels pain, too, and it makes him stop hurting him.

Finally, Little Bear has found a new love. Kung Fu Panda. We rented the third installment last night and Little Bear was mesmerized. He’s always been a movie fan, but this was Screen Shot 2016-08-07 at 9.49.06 PM.pngdifferent. This was like his entire spirit lifted. He laughed, smiled, growled, and actively watched the entire film from the beginning until the end of the credits, and then went up to the TV and touched it when it ended because he missed it.

Ironically, it wasn’t the panda he liked. I mean the panda was cool and he laughed when he did funny things, but the villain… that was who he adored. He literally squealed with joy every time he came on screen. The action scenes had him literally at the edge of the couch in suspense. He enjoyed the third one so much that we finally watched the first one, which has been sitting on my Amazon Prime account for at least six months – there was a giveaway when Kung Fu Panda 3 came out and I downloaded it “just in case.”

I’m glad I downloaded it.

He loved it. The leopard? Oh god. He sat there growling at him every time he fought the panda. Growling and laughing. He was in heaven.

I think we have a lot of Kung Fu Panda in our future.